OK, complaining just a little bit

[grammarwoman]

So I'm really glad that we pushed back last year and got to hold on to the Emperor's IEP.

How do I find out that his case manager didn't come back this year? From an email response to my asking, "So, what are the plans for his support staff?" A response, mind you, that came a full week after school started, and only because my son asked the social worker if she had gotten my email, because she doesn't check it that often.

I really hope that the worse-off kids at his school are getting better treatment than this, because so far I am Not Impressed.

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[the_shoshanna]

Oh gah, that's outrageous.

The guy in charge of special needs in my stepson's school system once admitted to us, flat out and face to face, that they had no school or program that could appropriately serve my stepson; then, when we said "great, thanks, with that on the record we can pursue special services for him through provincial Medicare," he refused to put it on the record.

(Instead they offered to have him enroll in the school for kids having trouble in regular school -- which, this was a very immature fifteen-year-old with poor emotional control who was extremely innocent and naive and anxious and did I mention immature, and the school they wanted to put him in served kids who had trouble in regular school programs because they had spent their previous school careers doing things like joining gangs and dealing drugs. Sounds like a great idea! We'll sign him right up, you betcha!)

[grammarwoman]

Yikes! That sounds like it was a horrible solution. I hope you guys got something better put into place.

[the_shoshanna]

We put him in a private school for more-his-type of kid, which worked really well for a year or two, and then I think the guy who ran the school decided that he was just misbehaving for the fun of it, or something? There were some really worrying interactions, some blowups at school and some really inappropriate comments by the head guy, and my stepson was ultimately expelled. (He ended up getting a high school degree through adult ed.)

Two years after he left that school, Geoff took great pleasure in writing to the school head to say hey, just thought you might be interested to learn that we have discovered that my son has a rare genetic disorder that has caused significant damage to the areas of the brain that control, among other things, executive function and emotional regulation. The SUCK IT, MISTER was left implicit.

[grammarwoman]

I am so sorry you had to go through all that. Your stepson is very lucky to have you guys fighting for him.