Heh - at least my kid knows that my #1 wish for him is that he grows up to be a happy, independent, capable adult, even if that means I have to be "UGH, the worst!"

The offers of assistance are greatly appreciated, and I am laughing helplessly at how BADLY that would go for me. As it is, I did it, and she was indeed disappointed, and the fallout remains to be seen, but I am not the boss of her feelings.