highlander_ii: Alexandra Cabot leaning with her head in her hand ([Alex] 001)
Highlander II ([personal profile] highlander_ii) wrote in [personal profile] grammarwoman 2009-06-17 04:41 am (UTC)

The meeting with the Boss' boss is a good start. A chat with HR may not be out of the question.

Have hubby write down the list of things that have 'gone wrong' and been blamed on him, then list the reasons why these things are not his fault and why and what he did to try to avert, assuage, help, redirect, correct the issues - all in as positive language as possible. This can be his sort of 'crib sheet' when he goes to chat with the boss person. It may also serve a cathartic purpose in getting all of the frustration out on the paper/keyboard/whatever - but it will also give him a plan of attack for his meeting.

Toxic bosses SUCK. Here are a couple links from Monster.com that might help too:
Ten Warning Signs of a Toxic Boss
Neutralize your Toxic Boss

Both articles have links to other helpful articles on similar topics.

Depending on how bad the Boss is, your husband may have grounds for a harassment accusation - which would require an investigation from HR. If your husband feels he's being 'bullied' b/c the Boss thinks his job is in trouble, he may have grounds for the claim. Granted, this is a bit of an extreme, but it could become necessary.

And one of my fave quotes of empowerment seems appropriate here: "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." - Eleanor Roosevelt If your husband *knows* he's good at his job (which, it sounds like he does), he shouldn't let one blowhard make him feel like he doesn't.

Good luck to you and your hubby!

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