This must be devastatingly frustrating for you. I don't know if this will help any but I have a random observation about Peanut that might give you a different perspective. Peanut tends to bite me. Sometimes he bites other folks too but mostly and repeatedly he bites me. I thought this was some random two-year-old thing for a while but since I did not enter the world cherry-flavored it seemed strange that he would favor me over all others. I started paying attention to what I was doing that was different. I tend to be the real roughhouser of the family but since I am not exclusive in that respect that couldn't be the whole story either. I finally realized that it was a combination of two factors. The first is that I am a space case and do not always read his mood right. There are many moments when I do something like pick him up when he is doing something else and frustrate and anger him because that was not what he wanted. I also have a tendency to get frustrated myself and if he is not going where I want him to I will pick him up and PUT him there. I am considerably stronger of course and this makes him feel helpless and out of control. He responds as I have taught him to, physically. He does it with me because I am the one who does it with him but if I let it continue for much longer he would probably start to do it with everyone when he gets frustrated. This is not directly analogous to your situation but since the Emperor can speak his mind a little better than the Peanut maybe this gives you a place to start in asking him why he responds the way he does. We had an odd little conversation about why he did something the last time he was here and he seemed to grasp what I was asking and gave me an honest and thoughtful answer. I did have to sit down with him and be calm for a while to get him settled enough to talk but once we got to talking he really listened and thought. Hang in there hon, he is truly a good little boy. He is also a very smart little boy, a very strong little boy and a very passionate little boy. He is expressing all of those things in a mixed up jumble at the moment but he is still a little boy. You have more than enough time to teach him better ways of coping and once he realizes that these are good things to learn he will learn quickly, I am sure of it.
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I don't know if this will help any but I have a random observation about Peanut that might give you a different perspective.
Peanut tends to bite me. Sometimes he bites other folks too but mostly and repeatedly he bites me. I thought this was some random two-year-old thing for a while but since I did not enter the world cherry-flavored it seemed strange that he would favor me over all others. I started paying attention to what I was doing that was different. I tend to be the real roughhouser of the family but since I am not exclusive in that respect that couldn't be the whole story either. I finally realized that it was a combination of two factors. The first is that I am a space case and do not always read his mood right. There are many moments when I do something like pick him up when he is doing something else and frustrate and anger him because that was not what he wanted. I also have a tendency to get frustrated myself and if he is not going where I want him to I will pick him up and PUT him there. I am considerably stronger of course and this makes him feel helpless and out of control. He responds as I have taught him to, physically. He does it with me because I am the one who does it with him but if I let it continue for much longer he would probably start to do it with everyone when he gets frustrated.
This is not directly analogous to your situation but since the Emperor can speak his mind a little better than the Peanut maybe this gives you a place to start in asking him why he responds the way he does. We had an odd little conversation about why he did something the last time he was here and he seemed to grasp what I was asking and gave me an honest and thoughtful answer. I did have to sit down with him and be calm for a while to get him settled enough to talk but once we got to talking he really listened and thought.
Hang in there hon, he is truly a good little boy. He is also a very smart little boy, a very strong little boy and a very passionate little boy. He is expressing all of those things in a mixed up jumble at the moment but he is still a little boy. You have more than enough time to teach him better ways of coping and once he realizes that these are good things to learn he will learn quickly, I am sure of it.